EFT AIRM Assessment for ACA Members - Melbourne Community for EFT

EFT AIRM Training Assessment for ACA Members

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1. By definition, an Attachment Injury is: *

a. A betrayal of trust or abandonment at a crucial moment of need.
b. Repeated moments of one partner turning away from his or her partner.
c. A traumatic event one of the partners has suffered in childhood.
d. A relationship cycle that defines the relationship as insecure.

2. Which of the following is an accurate statement? *

a. The AIRM must be done before a couple can de-escalate, because a couple cannot de-escalate until the attachment injury has lost its power to destroy trust.
b. Attachment Injuries can be acknowledged in the negative cycle in Stage 1 but cannot be resolved until de-escalation and sufficient withdrawer re-engagement have taken place.
c. When an attachment injury arises in Stage 1, the therapist explains that it cannot be discussed until the couple has de-escalated.

3. Choose the best description of how to validate and contain escalation when there is an open wound of an attachment injury in Stage 1: *

a. Catch the zingers between partners to create safety. Reflect present process. Normalize the injured partner’s struggle to trust and the offending partner’s impatience to be trusted.
b. Set a firm ground rule, that we are not doing any investigation here and we need to all calm down if we are to make any progress, and we need to do plenty of active listening.
c. Be very clear there will be no name-calling and the sessions need to be a safe place for you to figure out why this injury occurred.
d. Assure the couple you are going to find out together why the attachment injury occurred and remove any blame or responsibility on one person.

4. When a couple begins therapy in crisis, after discovering an affair, an EFT therapist will: *

a. Explain that this is an issue to talk about later in therapy, after the injured partner has discovered he/she/they no longer need to look up to their partner.
b. Empathically reflect and validate that that the injured partner was very hurt when the offending partner turned to someone else instead of to them.
c. Reassure the injured partner not to let it bother them too much since their partner didn’t intend to hurt them and points to the real reason it hurts so much.
d. Encourage the betrayed partner to recognize how sorry their partner is and to try and forgive them.

5. Which of the following client statements are markers of a relationship attachment injury blocking a couple from safe connection? *

a. “That event changed everything between us.”
b. “It just broke me.”
c. “Never again can I trust him/her!”
d. All of the above.

6. Which of the following therapist interventions is the best example of an empathic reflection in the present moment (Tango Move 1) to the partner who says: “I never thought that you would be able to do that – especially not the lies that were behind it… I am trying really hard to trust you again, but your lies are still in the back of my mind and I am not trusting you totally…” *

a. Let’s slow down here a minute - when he left you and lied about what he was doing, you were completely left alone in an ocean of lies, right?
b. As you say this now, you are still plagued by thinking of the lies he told you and it is so very hard to trust him again.
c. What was it like for you when he left you and lied about where he was going?
d. Can you turn to him right now and say, “You lied to me – that was awful for me!”

7. New cycles of emotional engagement - forgiveness and reconciliation - occur in steps 5 and 6 of the AIRM. Which of the following best describes the depth of emotional experiencing that is a salient part of this process? *

a. The offending partner reminds the injured partner that s/he had just causes for acting this way, even though it hurt.
b. The offending partner expresses empathy, regret and/or remorse, and gets a felt sense of their partner’s pain.
c. The offending partner explains that s/he is hurting just as much as the injured partner and pleads to be trusted again.
d. When the offending partner promises with fervor and emotional engagement never to slip up again, the injured partner’s trust is restored.

8. Which of the following statements, best represents the final two steps of the AIRM that the therapist will integrate in Tango Move 5? *

a. The injured partner stops asking for reparative comfort and caring.
b. The relationship is recognized as improved, but unlikely to become a safe haven again.
c. The couple experiences a bonding event that is an antidote to the relationship injury.
d. The relationship is redefined as an equitable working relationship.

9. In a successful attachment injury repair, which of the following are commonly used interventions in EFT Tango Moves 2 and 3? *

a. Discouraging mistrust and explaining the need to risk again.
b. Heightening core emotion and shaping encounters between partners.
c. Minimizing the importance of the present process in a proxy voice for emphasis.
d. Heightening the need to bypass fears and pain.

10. Before an EFT therapist follows the AIRM, he/she assesses whether *

a. The couple has an awareness of their typical negative cycle and has “de-escalated” it.
b. They have kept their commitment to stop fighting over the betrayal or rupture, even if it is still nagging in the background.
c. The injured partner has forgiven the offending partner.
d. The offending partner has said sorry.

11. Only one of the following is an Attachment Injury. Which is it? *

a. Gradual erosion of loving feelings due to repetitive negative patterns of interaction.
b. Childhood sexual and physical abuse leaving one partner unable to trust.
c. A traumatic motor vehicle accident leaving one partner disabled.
d. A sudden snap of trust when a partner fails to respond in a moment of need.

12. In attachment injury repair, it is important for us to attune to the complexities of “hurt” or emotional pain in both partners. Social science research has determined hurt to be a complex emotion of: *

a. Anger, sadness and fear of loss
b. Resentment, guilt and shame.
c. Anger, resentment and guilt.
d. Pain, anguish and guilt.