Therapist Blog

Increasing numbers of individuals and couples of various sexual persuasions arebeginning to engage in consensual or ethical non-monogamy. Therefore, EFTtherapists need to be careful not to assume that their clients necessarily follow thetraditional heteronormative model of strict monogamy. In the case of relationshipsbetween same gender attracted (SGA) men, many (although certainly not all) ofthem incorporate […]

How generalised anxiety affects relationships Generalised anxiety affects relationships by fuelling disconnection through negative thought patterns and beliefs that seem larger than life. These erode connection and affect the ability to trust. In EFT we may see the generalised anxiety (GAD) as attachment distress and part of a protective response. In EFT we see all […]

Non-monogamy in Intimate Relationships Between Men Intimate relationships between men have certainly received more recognition and validation in recent times, at least in Australia and other western countries. However, in working with same gender attracted (SGA) men, EFT therapists need to be careful not to assume that they follow the traditional heteronormative model of strict […]

The negative cycle again or are we in stage two? Escalation, the negative cycle again or are we in stage 2? You might have been thinking, okay, we have tracked the negative cycle, and my couple is now de -escalated  “now we’re into the juicy stuff.” Then suddenly all your good work looks to be […]

Do you walk out of the room after being with highly escalated couples and wonder if you’re cut out for this work? We’ve all been there. You just need some help to reframe what’s going on for you and them when they’re angry. We want to reassure you, help you understand anger differently and give […]